I use toner if I want it more white, bleach for my roots
I use products like Ion repair treatment, argon oil, heat protect spray by Paul Mitchell, argon shampoo and conditioner by Got2b.
Also if I redo it, I leave it in a bun for a couple of days so the natural oils help repair it.
You just need to expand more socially. Meet new people, hangout with more than one person. When people ask me about this I tell them that theres different kinds of friendships. You got gossip friends, the therapist friends, the lets make bad decisions friend etc. Some people are not good with certain things. So you gotta expand and find your therapist friend that connects with you on that level.
Rest in peace Aubrey. I know death has no age restrictions, but you went away at too young of an age. I know death has no moral code, but you where a lovely person. I know death has no care of what the aftermath is, but I guarantee its a sad one.